Most parents will be pretty familiar with what it doesn’t look like!
When a child is skilled at self-regulation they’re better able to:
It is important to remember that kids are kids and should not be expected to ‘be good’ all the time. Self regulation becomes a problem when a child has persistent ‘melt-downs’ or is so emotionally fragile that their lack of resilience seems to get in the way of them enjoying their life and learning.
Stein, J. Emotional Self Regulation: A critical component of executive function. Chapter in Meltzer, L. (2010) Promoting Executive Function in the Classroom. The Guildford Press, New York.